This may be hard to hear, Moms, but you can be the most support by loving unconditionally and then stepping back into a support role to your son's father or other male mentors. Your son may be over-identified with you. Perhaps the apron strings may never have been fully broken. You can do the most good now w by pushing your son to turn to heterosexual men and male "elders" or mentors for advice and support, rather than to you. You can support his father in this role, if possible, or help your son find a "father figure" to mentor him -- but then step out of the way and, at most, work behind the scenes helping the mentor to understand your son's needs.

Aside from that, of course, simply pray for him. The private prayers of loving mothers have created more goodwill and healing than the world will ever know.

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