Answer: We're just a group of men who met each other in the course of our separate journeys out of homosexuality and have decided to share our experience with others in the hope that it might help other people. We started this web site with six or seven of us, and have been adding others as we continue to network or as they approach us about wanting to share their stories, too.

David is now a professional therapist in New Jersey; Richard is a therapist, author and educator in the Washington, D.C., area; Scott is a counselor and author in Mesa, Arizona; and Peter is a professional counselor in Australia. All four of them specialize in helping people transition from homosexual to heterosexual. Richard, Alan, Jason and Scott have written "how to" books on change, and David has written a practical "Workbook for Men." Alan is the founder of Regeneration Ministries, a Christian "ex-gay" transition ministry and book publisher. Jerry runs a ministry in Ohio helping people to change. Ben is the primary writer and webmaster behind the site. All but two of us are now husbands and fathers.

Our motivation for sharing our stories and experience is to benefit those who now are where we were not that long ago, facing the pain and hopelessness of having homosexual desires we could not understand and did not want. The gay community offered us only one solution -- affirm our homosexuality and indulge it. When we tried that, it didn't work for our lives. It ultimately brought us more misery, not less. Some of us considered suicide. Those of us who had married before dealing honestly and completely with the homosexual desires faced the prospect of divorce and damaging our families beyond repair. Some of us had become sex addicts, wanting to stop but unable to. However homosexuality might have worked fine for someone else, it did not work for us. It was destroying our lives.

If you disagree with our approach or feel it is not right for your own life, we have no argument with you. We speak only for ourselves about what was right for us and what brought us healing, peace and joy.

Whether this path is right for another person or will work for another person is ultimately irrelevant to YOU. All that matters is what is right for YOU and whether it will work for you. And you are the only one who can determine that.

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