Rule Five: "I-Statements"

Please speak only for yourself and only about your own experience, feelings and beliefs. Please make a conscience effort to use "I statements" wherever possible, and never use "you should" statements. Don't tell others what they should do, and certainly not what they should feel. For example, try to say, "At some point, I knew I had to forgive him, for my own benefit, not for his," instead of "You should just forgive him." Or else ask a question in a non-critical way, such as, "Is forgiveness an option?" Please be very careful about giving unsolicited advice.

I understand and agree.

I do not agree.