Facing the reality that you have homosexual feelings can cause enormous inner turmoil. Especially if those feelings directly conflict with deeply held values, beliefs and life goals. We know what it’s like. We’ve been there. We, too, once felt hopelessly caught between two conflicting and painful choices: · either meet our deep longing for masculine love – but betray our values, beliefs and life goals… · or else be true to our values, beliefs and goals – but painfully suppress our longings for love and masculine connection. Either way, it seemed, we lost. Another Way Out Like you, we never chose to have homosexual feelings. So we couldn’t simply choose not to have them. We couldn’t just wish them away or will them away. But we discovered that we could address the root causes of the conflict – which wasn’t really about sex at all. Rather, the longing for male love was, for us at least, really a deep, unmet need from childhood and youth: · A longing for a father’s affirmation, perhaps. Or a mentor’s guidance. A peer group’s inclusion. Or our own internal sense of just being “one of the guys.” What we really needed was to fulfill – rather than suppress – the underlying, core need: a need not for sex or romance with men but for brotherly love. For male community. For self acceptance. And affirmation, as a man among men.  | Simply put, we found: | | Change is Possible | | …by healing buried pain, | | …authentically meeting our core needs | | for love, acceptance and masculinity, | | …and surrendering the rest. |
We call it “A M.A.N.S. Journey”… a journey of masculine connection. Of rigorous authenticity. Of genuine need fulfillment. And courageous surrender. On these pages, those of us who have resolved past homosexual conflicts share our stories and experience for the benefit of those who may be conflicted, as we once were, and who seek similar change. In sharing our experience, we mean no disrespect to those who identify as gay and choose to live a gay life. They are as deserving of respect as we are. Their path may be right for them. We cannot judge another person’s life. All we know is that this path of change is right for us. Because in it we have found the healing, acceptance, love, brotherhood and peace that we had really been seeking all along.
People Can Change is a founding member of PATH – a non-profit coalition of organizations that help people with unwanted same-sex attractions (SSA) realize their personal goals for change. | 
